The number of psychologists in my country can be counted on the fingers. In this situation, it is important that everyone knows the skill of coping with depression. , Fear, confusion, anger, shock, etc.
The cause and treatment of each of these conditions are different. If you have a problem with depression, understand the nature of it, then treat it.
Note:(The following article is used by the author of the book, Dale Carnegie, author of CityAfrican: “Stop worrying and start living”) Trouble: Trouble means that your tattoos are scattered around. Thinking hard and thinking about tomorrow, they tremble with fear. Past mistakes, disappointments, and failures are also embedded in your heart and the burden of future responsibilities, risks and difficulties may also be on your nerves.
Whenever you sit down to do something, the onslaught of anxious thoughts can paralyze you. Regrettably, remorse and confusion do not even leave you behind in your sleep. All this happens when you are living in the past and in the future simultaneously. And even that he is not able to prepare properly for the upcoming exam.
The result is that the past has already come out of your hands, now the future also frees you. The cure for this problem is to remove the past and the future from your mind and focus on all your attention. Give up Lock yourself in the living room by closing the windows that open to the past and future in your mind. During the Second World War, a US Navy commander said at the meeting: "I have provided the best men and best war boats for war and have prepared and handed over the best tactic that could be made in those situations."
That's all I can do. Now if a boat is sunk, I can't bring it back to the surface and if a boat is about to sink, I can't save it. The difference between positive and negative thinking is that positive thinking leads to constructive planning by analyzing the causes, while negative thinking always leads to anxiety and nervous breakdown.
If you can compensate for any loss of the past or pay for an action, you must, if you have an effective plan for the future, put it into practice, but do not worry about the past and the future. Focus your attention on tomorrow's thinking. Today is your day. Thinking about the time to come is the same as when you are walking down a dark path, instead of taking the flashlight one step further, start peeking away somewhere.
The arch cannot show you a far scene and in this way, you will not be able to see far away or escape the pit a few steps ahead. Your mind is a lighthouse but its light is like a flashlight. Use it. That is not too far away but only one step ahead! As one thinker says, "In just one day's time, the harasser can take on the most difficult task if life is only from dawn till dusk. Man can make her laugh.
“So if you start living life one day, the anxiety will go away and you will eat with hunger and sleep with great comfort. Fear: Fear is a condition in which a person feels that something is going wrong. A businessman fears something is going to happen that will ruin his business. An employee fears that something is coming up that will result in his termination.
A student fears that something is going to happen that will expel him from school or college. The house will be destroyed. In such a state of fear, man forgets to eat and sleep. Fear engulfs the mind and the mind badly. The feeling of insecurity is drastically increased.
The owner of an oil company in Marica experienced similar fears. According to the law, the oil company was given a special quota of oil from the government which it supplied to the designated customers. One day, a person came to the owner's office and said to himself the government inspector, "We have the evidence." That your company's drivers steal public oil and resell it to their favorite customers.
If you owe me five thousand dollars, I will hand over the evidence to the police. ”The owner was personally unaware of whether his company's drivers did such a thing. But he knew that the owner of the company was terribly scared. He knew that even if he paid the money, the blackmailing would not be kept and if the evidence really reached the police, the company's reputation would be lost.
She couldn't sleep for three nights in the same vein. After being stagnant for three days, she finally shook her mind and thought: "What if I refuse to pay this person?" It was: "He won't be jailed anyway. More often than not, he will be stoned." He then asked himself: "What will happen after the business stops?" I have to search and this is not a problem.
I am particularly aware of the oil industry, there are several firms that will willingly give me a job. ”Thinking back three days, he realized that the shadow of fear had disappeared from his heart. Now he relaxed and began to think about the problem in a new way: "If I could talk to my lawyer, he might be suggesting something I don't know!" His mind was paralyzed.
After getting rid of fear, she slept peacefully after three days. The next day, she told her lawyer everything. The lawyer advised her to go to the district attorney. He went to the attorney's office to report the incident. The attorney smiled and said: "It just didn't happen to you. It's a regular gang of bureaucrats who blackmail people and the police are looking for the person who threatened you.
"On hearing this he felt as if he had been brought back from Heaven to Paradise. The fear that kept him in torment for three days and three nights just turned out to be the scarecrow of an advertising juggler !!! However, if you experience any fear or anxiety, apply these three-point formulas: (1) Ask yourself, "What is the worst thing that can happen?" (2) Accept this worst result mentally.
(3) Then calm down and make some arrangements to avoid this worst danger. Prepare for Confusion: Confusion is a mental state in which you do not fully understand what your problem really is.
You do not understand the problem correctly or make any decision. Sometimes one thing comes to mind and another. Since you do not know the problem yourself, and even mention it to someone else, they are reluctant to give your statement in any clear and unambiguous way.
To deal with such confusion, follow these steps: (1) gather as much information and facts as you can about the problem you face. You will be able to understand the problem in greater depth by being neutral and non-emotional.
It may also be that when you know the real facts, understand that what you are considering as your problem, it is not your pain that is your responsibility, but the responsibility of someone else. With all the information and facts about the problem revealed, then think about what you can do for it? Once the information has been obtained, you will come to light and your mind will be able to make a decision.
Whatever form of problem you have in mind, write them down on paper. (2) Now you have to choose one of the best possible solutions to the problem and implement it. Yes, make it your decision. (1) Once you have made a decision, then finish thinking.
Now you just have to act, no matter what happens. Excessive thinking on a problem gives rise to confusion and confusion. So now instead of thinking, you have to integrate your mind into action. Trauma: Trauma is the condition that arises from the loss of a loved one or the loss of something great. If a close loved one dies or there is a major loss of business suddenly, the human being can become overwhelmed and with intense grief the cerebral veins come out.
Like a heart that has come down a mountain, there is no bridge, and no matter what the world is looking for. In this situation, you need some shoulders to bend over and head to.
In this regard, the history of a father is very much taught by two young daughters who died in the same year. He could not bear the grief and became extremely anxious and frustrated. One physician prescribed the dream pills and the other Cero Entertainment. He practiced both of them but the condition of the trauma did not subside.
Then one day, his four-year-old son came to him and said: Abu, make me a paper boat. He tried to avoid the baby, but he remained alone. The effort only lasted three hours. When he made the boat, he realized that it was the first three hours since the trauma that had passed, that the calm had not been achieved by any other means.
This experience forced this person to think. He noted that it is not possible for a man to be disturbed if he is engaged in some kind of work. He reviewed each room in the house and made a list of small tasks. Many things were repairable, such as bookshelves, windows, TV set buttons, locks, etc. He started doing these things one by one, while some more work was coming out.
Similarly, Dobres passed. During those two years, he engaged himself in various social activities. He became a member of the Red Cross Society. He enrolled in an adult school. Now he had no time to grieve! During World War I, Prime Minister Winston Churchill worked eighteen hours a day. Someone asked if he was not upset by his responsibilities. He replied: "I'm very busy.
I have no time for problems. ”The great scientist Louis Pasteur mentioned the comfort that is found in libraries and laboratories. Why do libraries and laboratories have peace? Because people are so absorbed in their research that they do not remember their grief. The right kind of people is doesn't have time for this "luxury" !! Do modest tactics, such as engagement, somehow relieve suffering? This is because the law of psychology is a conquered law: "No matter how fast the human mind can think of more than one thing at a time," that is true of emotions. You cannot have feelings of research and curiosity in your inbound time.
rarely depressed.
If you are passionate about one task at a time, then it is impossible for you to notice any personal trauma at this time. One emotion drives the other out. That is why military psychologists recommend "work" as a cure for soldiers who are traumatized during wartime. According to renowned writer George Bernard Shaw: "The secret to grief is that you have the opportunity to think whether you are happy or sad!" Not a bad medicine and it is the cheapest drug in the world.
Kroft: a Loft is a form of sadness in which the element of irritation and embarrassment prevails. This shit happens when you are criticized casually and insulted in terms of your ability and ability. Most people go out of their way to hear the negative opinion of themselves and all their enthusiasm gets cold.
They gnash their teeth with helplessness and begin to open their blood. It is a historical fact that Robert, an American teenager, was elected president of the University of Chicago because of his hard work and dedication. He was hit by an earthquake in the education circles. People accused him of being a recommender. He was accused of being inferior and inexperienced. The news also made derogatory headlines against him.
When a friend of Robert's father mentioned the intense criticism that was published in the newspaper, Robert's father replied: "Yes, these are very harsh comments, but the slaughter never kills the dead dog!" Yes Robert's father is right. As valuable as it is, kicking it off is just as satisfying to people. Fourteen-year-old British prince, who would later become King Edward VIII, was beaten by boys while he was in college.
The lanky boys confessed that they had repaired the prince so that when he became king, they could say that he had ever saved the king! So remember that when you are criticized, it is often an indirect acknowledgment of your value. Obviously, there is no criticism of disqualified and tertiary people.
Some people get ridiculous by criticizing more qualified and successful people than themselves. So keep in mind that when you are unfairly criticized, it is a sign that you have something in common with people. And they think you deserve attention. It is also true that you cannot shut people's mouth, they will criticize in any case no matter how hard you try to convince them.
Therefore, it is best to carry out a task to the best of your ability, then put the umbrella on top and continue in the rain of criticism. Critics actually want to create anxiety and resentment within you. If you just smile recklessly in response to their criticism, then their weapon will backfire and you will be upset instead. Will be
Also, remember that the criticism you have maybe legitimate and right. After all, you are human and everything you do cannot be perfect and perfect. Your comments and actions may contain errors. Take the positive criticism you have above as a suggestion, not as a suggestion, and refine it in the light of it. Seek criticism.
A young soap maker was a salesman in Palm Potato. He found that he did not get much order of soap, so he thought that there was no defect in the quality and price of the soap, certainly, there was a flaw in his own personality and style. He later went back to the shopkeeper he first contacted to buy soap. He individually told all the shopkeepers: "I have not come to you to sell soap anymore, but to know what is lacking or inadequate in my behavior at Bourtails.
You guys are more experienced and successful than me, so criticize me and guide me on how I should be a good salesman. " Thanks to which he became an influential one day Palm Potato Company. So instead of feeling overwhelmed by positive and legitimate criticism, welcome it, as it can help you lift it up.
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